The more energy we have the more that we can accomplish, whether it’s things you wish to accomplish physically – career related, athletic things – or whether your goal is to enlighten your mind, raise your awareness, and to become conscious of God, of Eternity, of everythingness and nothingness.
Life is wonder, endless wonder. When you are in a high level of attention you see that. Naturally, if your energy level is low, then everything is gray, two dimensional, boring, frustrating, and unhappy.
Happy people, enlightened people, and successful people, inspired people, all share something in common. They’ve learned how to manage and increase their energy. Angry people, frustrated people, hateful people, unhappy people, dissatisfied people, and people who are mean and seek to injure others. All have something in common: the ineffective use of energy. They waste energy, they don’t conserve it, and they don’t know how to increase it. Sometimes they steal it, but what they steal, they use up quickly, and they waste it.
The study of Enlightenment and Awareness is the study of energy, power, knowledge and balance. It’s also the science of energy conservation and control. In Zen one uses energy to aid others, to see beauty, to discover love, where we saw no love at all. The Universe is made up of vibrating pulsating light. But when our attention level drops, and our energy is low we don’t see that. Instead we see what appears to be a solid material world.
Everything is stuck together. People are stuck together; they can’t change. We live in structures, houses. We think that the end of the Universe is as far as the telescope can see. All this has very little to do with reality.
A patient is dying in a bed in the hospital. His sight is fading and he looks around, and just sees grayness. You walk in the room and you are feeling great and you don’t see grayness. The sunlight is streaming through the window. The flowers that are in the vase are beautiful. There are little lilies and roses. Awareness is governed by energy.
The primary place where most people lose energy is in their inter-relationships with others. Read carefully: The primary place where most people lose energy is in their inter-relationships with others. That means that you lose your energy in your interactions with the people you know best. You can also gain energy if you interact with people in a way that is beneficial. But in most cases energy is lost: in little games of manipulation, in little struggles of will, in the attempt to possess others, to wrap them up, to dilute them, and to shine them on.
It takes a lot of energy to manipulate someone and keep them on a string; or if you have a lot of energy and people seek it, they try and get to you, and get into your life. They try to keep you off balance, keep you from making good decisions that will empower you, keep you from meditating well, keep you from being athletic and building your body up, and being successful in your career. Because if you are successful and you meditate deeply, and you have a healthy body, then your attention field will become very sharp and you’ll look around and see if anyone is in your life for ill reasons.
Let’s face it, nobody is perfect, right? We live in a world where everybody wants something. But there is a tremendous difference between people who use you, and people who abuse you. People who use you want something from you. They may love you, but ultimately they want something from you, whether it’s something physical, something sexual, or just the fulfillment of their own love by having someone to experience it with, and you use people, too, for the same reasons. So, reciprocity, a symbiotic relationship, is a relationship in which certain people have worked out certain things: “I’m using you in certain ways, you are using me in certain ways.” That’s a balanced association. One is aiding the other, or allowing usage, if you will.
An imbalanced association, though, is when one or both parties or more, if it happens to be a corporation, becomes abusive and takes advantage of them . One tries to block another’s Enlightenment or success, causes pain to others or injures them in any possible way, shape, matter or form – physically, with energy, emotionally, or occultly.
It’s necessary to do a careful evaluation of your life, and discover whether the people in your life, no matter how much you love them, are using you or abusing you. If they are using you, no problem, you should expect that, and you should use them. Proper energy balance occurs there: beings helping each other. But if there are people who are abusing you, then you have to ask them to stop. If they won’t, you must eliminate them from your life. Otherwise they will keep you in a very low energy state.
Naturally, as we all know, it is possible to take energy from someone else. Just as you can steal money from somebody’s wallet, you can take power from someone. This is usually done in a close emotional sexual relationship. In sexual contact there is something that happens – something obviously physical, and something subtle and mysterious. The doorways open between people in that deep level of intimacy, intimate contact, and it is very possible for someone to be very abusive at that time with energy. If one party is trusting, it’s very easy at that time for the other party to format someone. That is to say to put thoughts in their mind, to jam their consciousness or attention, to lower their energy level, or to just take power from them.
You can take power from somebody because a person is open at many levels. That doesn’t necessarily have to happen, but it does quite frequently – human beings, being they way they are: confused, diluted and generally unawakened. You are a person who seeks to increase your energy, which is why I address these remarks to you, not to the general public, who may or may not be interested in increasing their energy.
You have to be very careful about whom you have intimate contact with. You have to monitor the situation constantly; it can change. You can be with someone who is not abusive and it becomes abusive. Then you have to confront them; talk to them. Human beings need things explained to them sometimes. Then if they don’t change, and they probably won’t, it is time for you to change. Most energy is lost in these types of situations, or just within family structures. The only people who can drain your power effectively are people who you are very close to, you are open to, you love, or people you are afraid of.
When you are afraid of people they can gain power over you, meaning that they can lower your energy level. If others have something you want, they can wrap you. This is what we call manipulation. They can make you think that they have something that you have to get from them. They are the exclusive source. They are the only one who can make you happy, and of course, you can never get it yourself.